Children with Cancer are at Increased Risk for Bullying in School

Seeing the words "childhood cancer" and "bullying" in the same sentence is stomach-turning. Children with cancer endure months, sometimes years, of treatments including chemotherapy, surgery, radiation, and more. For many of these children, school is a safe haven of normalcy during times they are healthy enough to attend. It's a place where they can "just be kids," defined by their personality, not their illness.

At least, that's how it's supposed to be.

In reality, too many children are outcast or victimized by their classmates. While more data is needed, current research suggests that nearly a third of children with cancer are bullied. It is unclear why a child may be targeted in this way, but there is unfortunately a laundry list of treatment side effects that children may be bullied for. They range from changes in physical appearance (e.g., baldness, weight changes, scarring) to changes in functioning (e.g., increased anxiety, needing mobility aids, impaired memory or verbal skills). Many of the reasons that children with cancer are bullied are side effects of cancer that even adults don't consider. The truth is, it's impossible to tell just by looking at many children that they may be suffering from current or previous cancer treatments. 

So what can be done?

There is some evidence suggesting that children are more accepting of peers with cancer if they are educated about the disease. Telling healthy children about cancer may seem intimidating - issues of sickness, life, and death spark complicated feelings. However, most children will likely meet a peer with cancer by the time they complete their schooling, and it is better to provide accurate information. Adults know that cancer is not contagious or caused by misbehavior, but children may not. So, what are some things healthy children should know about cancer?

-Cancer is a sickness of our body's cells. All of us have cells that grow and regrow, but sometimes the cells grow too much or too fast. That's what cancer is.

-It's impossible to get cancer by being near someone who has it, or touching them.

-When someone has cancer, they have to take medicine that kills the cancer cells. The medicine hurts good cells too. It causes people to feel very, very sick. 

-Kids with cancer may look different, but they are just regular kids who happened to get sick.

-It's very important to be nice to kids who look, move, or learn differently from other classmates. They might be going through something scary, like cancer.

It is natural for children to have questions about peers with visible differences. Special Books by Special Kids is a great resource for teaching children about the many ways that people can look, move, and live. For families who have a child unable to attend school, Monkey in my Chair can help bridge the gap between the child with cancer and the rest of their class. Books by young people who have experienced cancer can also help children understand and normalize their peers.

In short, talking to children about cancer can help bring down the number of children getting bullied - which should always be 0%. 

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